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Tuesday 2 September 2014

The Agony Of a Nigerian Fat Girl

Article written by Jennifer Ogoo Okolo. Enjoy...
"The Fat girl ends up miserable year after year. The society has neglected the fuller woman. This has resulted to fat girls feeling depressed, left-out and downcast. The average big lady spends most of their years in solitude, angry at themselves, the society and even their shadow. Many are being laugh at, ridiculed, jilted, abused and sent back indoors where they are depressed and even get fatter. The society is such a big nightmare for this group of people which is saddening." Continue...
When they go for shopping which is a very beautiful and fun experience for almost every lady. But for the fat girl, it’s a rather sober experience. In many cases, sizes are deceptive to the extent that a size 12 dress will be tagged size 18. She has to through every cloth in the store before she finds what fits her. Sometimes, she ends up not seeing any flattering outfit. Again, the sadness begins.

Then she turns to her tailor to make a good dress for her. A beautifully styled dress she saw in a magazine page. The tailor makes it, it’s still not flattering. Sarcastically, the tailor says, “I find it difficult sewing for fat girls, it is too hard”. Again, the sadness begins.

Her soon-to-be-married best friend calls, “Wendy, will you be one of my bridesmaids”? “Don’t answer of course you will”. She is excited.“Will call you up later so we go choose the dresses with the other girls”. Her heart drops. Shopping bridesmaids with the other girls, she knows will be a huge nightmare because she is the “fat girl”. While shopping, The saleslady says, "We don't have your size, so here's the biggest we do have," and she gives it a try. Of course, it never fits. Her underarm fat is spilling over, her back fat is folding over the waist, and she can't get the thing to slip over her butt. But it looks beautiful on everyone else! And she is left feeling guilty for being more than a handful. Again, the sadness begins.

At NYSC orientation camp. The fat girl is handed her dress bag. She opens it. The kaki trouser is as small as a size 6’s whereas she is a size 18. “Ma’am, dis kaki is too small for me, can I get a larger size”, she says to the platoon mistress. The lady murmurs, “Exchange with someone else”. (lol, we’ve all experienced this). And she looks around, no one has her size. Most of other corpers, she may ask will reply saying, “NOO!!! I no carry orobo size”. Everyone laughs at her.  Again, the sadness begins.

Every fat lady go through post-traumatic dress disorder. It is the condition that occurs when a person, usually female, feels disappointed and traumatized while leaving a clothing store. It could happen when she views old photographs and asks herself "What the hell was I wearing???" It could also be the traumatic stress she feels between the moment she post a picture on the Internet and the moment somebody likes it or responds. Fat people go through this stress all the time and the society is not being fair at all. 80% of Heart-related illnesses which fat people suffer are because they spend most of their years depressed, not just about their size but because of social prejudicial.

What makes a fat girl traumatized while shopping?

1.       She finds it difficult to buy good fitting outfits?
2.       She feels upset when she can’t find cute cloths in her size.
3.       The fashion industry ignores the fat girls.
4.       Shopping for fat girls is frustrating.
5.       It is difficult to find well-fitted outfits for fat girls.


Let’s Vote

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Unknown said...

Very sad

Unknown said...

Very sad. The fashion industry ignores the fat girls.

ary said...

finding a dress size, especially for clothes she really likes.

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

But seriously Fat girls really go through a lot of depression in most cases, depends on one"s background and upbringing though.!! Sometimes I do feel for them. But once you are happy with yourself am sure you can always get over it..!! #Teamcurvygirls

Unknown said...

I love fat ladies but........
⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

Bishop Dammy said...

The change can start with you and me ..let's bring every1 togeda..show love equally..no matter the sex,age,beauty and likes. It is well. Matt 22:39. BishopDammy#

Anonymous said...

HEHEHE! tHank you for the business idea :)

OMG!WOMAN said...

She really can lose some weight... It is possible, all about determination... The meals, excercise, and timing.

ChincoBee said...

Well some extremely fat girls make themselves what they are today...You need to see their eating spree,they eat junks and some can't even make the sacrifice of shedding some weight!i guess they ain't depressed as u described cos if they are, they wld help themselves.And no matter how fat u are haba,a tailor will still make clothes for you and ofcause u don't expect it to be as fitting as it does a slim girl...yes it's the usual trend "orobo" but we still have big, bold and beautiful orobos,.Just learn to appreciate yourself

Amaka said...

So sad. Fat girls u can do it by cutting down on what u eat. Its difficult but possible. U don't need strenous exercise at d beginning, cut down ur food intake, stay away from junk n exercise by just taking a stroll everyday. For more advice email me.

juganut said...

Rich people make ripples in business, fat people make ripples in water

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Vote for wetin?
From what perspective,I'm not fat so I won't understand.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

My opinion:

True, we all come in different shapes, heights, colours and sizes.
But being OVERWEIGHT is not a sign of good health or "living well". It can be medically preoccupying.

Yes, you can look plump without being overweight. Plump chicks actually do have firm bodies.

Now to the "Nigerian Fat Girl", look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself the truth: Get some exercice and eat healthy.

You do not have to be thin, you can get down to a curvy size.
Beyoncé and Kim K have curves, but are they fat? No, not at all.
Our own Mercy Johnson, before she started having kids had a BADASS shape. Did anybody call her fat??? nooo.

Madam, hit the gym, eat healthy and get yourself a curvy shape. In the long run, being overweight, could cause you health problems.

Working out may be hard at first, but it is so worth it.
Good luck and God bless. Don't forget to update us;

Unknown said...

WHEN WOMEN BUILD THEIR ENTIRE DESTINY ON THEIR LOOKS...THEY END UP WITH A LOT OF MISERIES ... LIFE IS LIKE A BIG SHOPPING MALL....BUT A LOT OF US ONLY END UP AT THE "LOOKS SHOP"

Yoma said...

Dis article says it all...reminds me of d previous article bout Beyonce nd Kim K changing d face of beauty, if not for dem curvy gals will still b struggling to b skinny..we shuld learn to love pple for who dey r inside rather dan who we want dem to b outside

Unknown said...

If u feel traumatized for being fat then u need to hit gym. It won't be easy from de start but with time it will surely get better. As for the vote, Well maybe I'll go for 3.

I'm out. ***CATCH ME If U CAN***

Anonymous said...

So what's ur take? What exactly do u want us to do with this Linda?

Anonymous said...

stop eating

Anonymous said...

Being fat is abnormal,people should learn to control their diet and stop blaming society if they feel depressed! I am slim and I hardly find my waist size,so is a general problem

Anonymous said...

@ the pix, na only fat ppl dey waka for that lane?

Anonymous said...

she hasnt gone to a good store ..Every woman is on Allen and there are lot of online store that has plus sizes in stock

Unknown said...

eyaa, de fact girls even mock we slim girls saying we dnt have flesh....

beezy said...

3! D industry discriminate agt fat girls!

Anonymous said...

I belive every body must not be neither fat nor slim, is not also abt being fat or not, is all abt what u poses ur value and what u can do, so pls spear me all dis detaills, all they need 2 do is 2 be happy in every situation and try 2 have a full life worth living.

Anonymous said...

I would imagine "All of the above". It can't be easy...

Anonymous said...

If you're so big that the nysc khaki doesn't fit, then you're probably obese or borderline obese. Instead of indulging in self pity and soliciting society's pity, work on your body please. Its not healthy.

Anonymous said...

No one has the power to make you feel bad about yourself but you. This article seems to me a justification for depression and sadness based on one's weight. If a Fat girl can't find her size at the mall or in NYSC Camp or at the tailor's, why should she waste time feeling sad, when she can simply shed weight and loose the fat? Its not like the fat is a medical condition that cannot be remedied.

If you're fat and you don't feel comfortable in your body, loose the damn weight and stop sulking.

Otherwise, nobody has the right to put you down or look down on you for your weight if you don't grant them the consent to do so.

PURPLE said...

I don't know if I'm in a position to talk about this

Anonymous said...

To summarize ur story madam, go and work out on urself and stop feeling sorry. I used to be size 14, but am gradually reducing cos am determined to. Yes, every1 must not be slim but a little work out and d right food intake goes a long way to help. Am not voting anything!

Unknown said...

Sorry fat girls cos I also dislike fat girls.

Anonymous said...

Please stop complaining. Nigerians have boundary issues. I am a Nigerian and I'm a slim girl. Being slim is not my own decision because I eat a lot. Anytime I visit home, I get a lot of rude comments "You need to eat more. You are skinny" from people who don't even know me. How do you know what I eat. Nigerians will comment if you are fat, skinny or in the middle. Nobody taught them that is is rude to comment on people's weight especially when you don't even know them. Dear just love yourself or you'll be miserable.

Alexis said...

Then they should lose the extra pounds. Life is not that complicated.

IG - @Hairbyniyot_ (08135891923) said...

Fat girls rock jor

Anonymous said...

Fat Nigerian gurlz don't have noo agony or worries!!!! Why do you think dt d drug mau mau was in existence?most fat Nigerian women are bullies and they see their twin duplex body build as an evidence dt dey r enjoying "good living"...... It is only in the Western world where phat gurls are scorned as "obesity/heart victims"....Nigerian fat gurlZ glamourises dia fatness because they are most sought for by aristos... This article must have been copied from an internatnal writer, wht an epic fail to the "no body shame,fat movements"... #cheEzyjayne

APPLE said...

All of the above. I believe it is not easy for fat people.

jasmine said...

Instead of feeling sorry for urslf and playing the "self pity" card,HIT d gym!!! Most of these fat chics eat like hippopotamus and then expect u to feel sorry for them!

KWEEN said...

I personally do not discriminate against fat people... but some of them make it sound as if it is someone else's fault that they're fat. If a fat person doesn't like being fat, what stops that person from working out, going on a diet and watching what they eat? Apart from those who have it in their genes and lineage and can't really control it, some of these people EAT and EAT till they become obese then they start talking about being discriminated and depressed as if someone forced the food down their throats . It may seem like a cold or mean thing to say but that's the hard truth! If you don't like being fat, work it off!!!

Pst Busayo said...

God have mercy on us all for racism against fat people in our society

Anonymous said...

Let's vote for? #cheezyjayne

Anonymous said...

Story 4 †ђƐ gods (Liהda's Maה)

whitefalcon said...

Linda, u or whoever it is that put up this article, did not see any other name to choose other than Wendy?

chizzysignature said...

I think people should love themselves the way they are,if however u feel over weigh or under weigh work on yourself.it's not healthy to not love and accept yourself.

sim said...

I am on d big side. Never been depressed abt my size sometimes u see cute dresses u can't buy i take d pisho give it to my tailor to sew. I rock it beta than d lepa b'cos i hv a full chest and not agbalumo. Big and proud. Pls for those dat don't like there size wake up cos there is notin u can do other than for u to rock ur size wit swag.

hbjhjhmhn said...

I have learned never to make jest of fat people as a slim tall guy. The best way to finish a person is by criticism.

Unknown said...

isnt dis same way d society treat effeminate guys ,gays,and tomboys? u can't treat others like shit and expect to b treated like royalty...

Anonymous said...

Fatness is a choice.d question is 'y do u eat so much?'. U get fat u feel depressed u blame pple 4 laughn at u where as its ur own fault,u don't like ur body GO TO THE GYM,or if u have so much money do a 'gastric by-pass'.

seunLondon said...

She should loose weight n stop moaning...there's no 2 way about it. ...#SeunLondon

Jenny Cherish said...

Yer it is very difficult to find orobo size in d market,hv a friend like dat buh she even cares less abt her extra extra extra extra large size lol,d worst part of it is dat each time a suitor is directed to meet with her,dey end up running away saying dat d fat inside of her belly wud nt allow her to get pregnant n even if miraculously she became preggy dat she cnt deliver normally cos her legs does nt spread wide,infact I feel sorry for fat ladies cos dey go thru emotional stress cos of their size buh dey should also help themselves by minding their intakes,

Girl said...

Haven't seen an article more true Linda. For me I just can't find cute things my size. Still most times am I feel am a lot more lucky than other as am a size 14. There is nothing for other girls in bigger sizes!!! It's a pity!

surshima samuel said...

Nice article, u don forget other important and common things fat ladies or girls go throug, all emphasis are on cloths, well if u ask me, all fat women have to accept themselves first before been accepted by the society, love urself and treat urself like a full beatiful Nigerian princess then u will be accepted. Our fat girls,ladies and even the matured/aged women are looking for ways to slim down cos they have refuse to accept and love theirselves, look @ Nollywood actress Ngozi who slimmed down, how does she look? Not as beautiful as her old self so if u are fat nd accept urself u will look more beautiful than any lekpa, and who says u can't find ur seize in the boutique or no tailor can sew ur seize? Change boutique and ur tailor, try other places. I am fat and I love me, my boo loves me too, he says "I love them BOLDER and FULLER"

Anonymous said...

it is true. when i was big in size they call me "mama" and some will say i have christain mother arm.
then i decide to slim, d same pple are saying haaa blessing are u sick. hmmm u look beautiful when u were fat.
rubbish, i have learn to adore my body because it is d obly one i will ever get in my life time. so no matter ur body size feel gud with ur self, it is d only body u have..........#queen b#

Unknown said...

That's really the truth ,it's can be very annoying

Anonymous said...

Dere must be specialized tailor for the fat...dey should try finding one and also try accept wat God has given them.#FAT

Anonymous said...

If you are unhappy about your size then do something about it. Cut down on your food, start exercising. Channel your depression or frustration to work on your self. Stop dwelling on your Fat!.

I hate Fat God knows. I can't stand it. I can't be fat "IJN"

Anonymous said...

The fat girl should join a gym, eat healthier and stop moaning !!

Unknown said...

Lmao about the NYSC part of the write-up;it so true 'exchange with someone...' The vote starts now for all the Orobos in the house.#BeYouBeBeautiful. I wonder what happens to Bold and Beautiful!

Rittyluv said...

Huh? Let's vote as in??? Ok, 1, 4, 5,!!!

Anonymous said...

Stop whining and go and exercise biko! Fat is not your height; you can change your size, lazy!!!

nikkiebillz said...

I hate being thin or being fat,I just love being fleshy,curvy! A little flesh or body makes clothes fit u die! Skinny is not sexy,fat is not sexy just get bodied!

Anonymous said...

Fat people eat a lot...I am working on my abbs and I know what I sacrifice for that...dinner for me is now a forgotten issue...I go out to party everyday n get tempted to eat and drink but I hold myself looking forward to my target while appreciating the result I have seen for working out and staying disciplined...its not a rocket science...take for instance,the photo of that woman above,she has a drink...you cannot eat ur cake and have it...I have aunts that has given birth to 4 kids but still stay in shape...it does not need a miracle...it needs discipline and hard work...burn calories...shed the fat...download insane workout videos by Shaun T...I rest my case...

Anonymous said...

For me I disagree . am a Man, but
they may be going through all this o but as me I love fat / big girls or women, but I have not been lucky having them any fat woman here?

Anonymous said...

The Naija Fat Girl should try YOURS... Heck I am upset in that store (I am a size 8 and can never find my size). They do clothes in sizes 18 and above. You can thank me later.
http://www.yoursclothing.com/

Anonymous said...

For me I disagree . am a Man, but
they may be going through all this o but as me I love fat / big girls or women, but I have not been lucky having them any fat lady's here

Anonymous said...

and the point isss?.#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

Anonymous said...

Which kin yeye article be this? My dear the fashion industry has changed. Fat girls have better options now than before. Do your research well.

Unknown said...

Uv said it all
Ehya feeling so bad
Wud try and be cautious of overweight ppl and how I relate with them.
Bt u shud av included how dey can manage their weight nah.

Anonymous said...

Please this is ridiculous. Society owns you nothing. You owe society the duty of keeping in safe and being healthy. Stop eating Crappy food, exercise and stop making excuses maybe then Fat people will stop feeling sorry for themselves. PS: This comment doesn't relate to those with medical conditions, just the lazy Nigerian women not ready to put in the work.

Unknown said...

If only the fat girl knew the true definition of confidence, den she wudnt ve to go thru all dat, surround herself wit pple who truly see her for who she is, den again know her Shape n.know wat suits her. There r happy fat pple all over the world, depression happiness all depend on d state of ones mind, so it's not about society accepting d fat girl, it's about d fat girl accepting herself first, indeed there r lines for the fat one even over weight persons, nothing makes shopping for dem more frustrating dan it is for others, except their thirst for things that aren't meant for dem.

chioma said...

i love this write up. but do thorough crosscheck before posting because of typos. i usually fall victim to this when i write as well. but i have never been bold enough to show anyone my write up. Kudos for being confident i must say.

Anonymous said...

My dear its not all about fashion. What of transportation? She enter a 4 seater cab and wen d 4th person open d door, he or she will say"here no go enter me" it makes them feel bad too.that means d driver will have to make due with 3 seaters instead of 4 or may some very person enters and you hear a complain thus" please ajust here is tight"
Okada own no be here, they at times purposely ignore one fat gal and wud prefer to carry 2 slim gals. Kinda funny though.

Unknown said...

I love fat girls.they are tighter than all these Lekpa boreholes!

Mena Peters Triflections said...

As far as I know, being fat is not irreversible. If anyone feels this bad about being sad then do something about it. One thing is for sure, your size is a reflection of what goes into your mouth. I can never believe otherwise, so don't try to convince me.

Anonymous said...

Lolll I hate reading stuff like dis, u make fatness sound like its a disease dat has no cure, If u are fat and depressed I feel bad for u son, especially when u hve d option of eating healthy nd exercising...I used 2 b a "fat girl" but I knew I was d only 1 who was going 2 change my game, so if u want 2 enter a shop nd leave smiling then u hve 2 give up ur carbs 4 protein. ..shikena!!!

Anonymous said...

listen, it is very shallow for the writer to allege that the cause of depression or frustration is in the size of a human beings body.
i take it as mere foolish talk and ignorant outburst.
i believe, should the author re-investigate, it is clear to see that people experience depression at different times in their lives for many reasons and some are known to become suicidal.
it is safe to say, that the cure for self depreciation, is a genuine love for oneself which can be achieved only by looking inwards, appreciating ones intrinsic qualities and personality, then attaining the strength from this self love to change any undesirable physical image.
As long as you pity yourself, depression will eat you. Lets not encourage mediocrity, fight for your life, for your worth and fight for yourself image,
{as 50 cent would say) or die trying.
PS;i'm not thin, i'm 5ft 11, weigh 88kg, wear uk 14-16, bra size 36 DD-38DD.
Good luck with yourself esteem.

cleo said...

The fat girl should take her anger to the gym! Simple ..sometimes its frustrating but theres a solution!dieting and exercising.

iffy said...

It is a pity, they should be put into consideration

Anonymous said...

Simple solution to Fat girls...Lose some weight!!!Aha cant u control wat goes into your mouth?Must u blame society for deep seethed issues that u alone hv d power t control?SMH

Anonymous said...

Come let's get one thing straight; there's a difference between being full n FAT. Huge difference! I hv nthng against fat ppl at all. Dey r human beings like dem skinny bitches. I jst worry for their health more than the physical appearance. Truth is OBESITY kills....so do something abt it. for d sake of ur health n not coz of wat ppl like me think abt ur looks. Afterall there r beautiful faced obese girls, I hv frnds n cousins.

Anonymous said...

Well my take on this is dat every lady/guy shld take themslves the way they are,either fat/slim or tall/short,jst love urself.Remeber even the perfectly built ones like me are still being criticised too..And to add to add to I must say I prefer orobo babes pass lepka ones shaaa ooo..linda pls post my comment.

Anonymous said...

1st to Comment!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

ehyaaa...*walks away*

Anonymous said...

My dear author, do not misinform us. 80% of heart diseases in a fat person is NOT because of depression. U lie! It's due to their high colesterol level this lines their blood vessels with fat and causes them to block. A fat person shld simply simple down not cos of shopping, but for his or her health.

agboola said...

We should stop discrimation in our country #nice article

LORENX said...

LAST WEEK IN THE CHURCH I SAW DIS LITTLE GURL ABOUT 8 SO FATTTT I COULDNT TALK...AND SHE WAS WITH HER MUM,,I WAS JUST LOOKING AT THE MUM WITH BAD EYES COS I KNOW SHES DESTROYING THE POOR GURL,,NA ONLY WEN SHE GROW BODY GO TELL HER...SO IN A NUTSHELL SOME GIRLS WEY FAT TODAY NA THEIR PARENT FAULT COS E STAT FROM SMALL NOBODY HELPED NOW NO HOPE....BUT JESUS IS THEIR HOPE SHA

Anonymous said...

And just what the heck is this poorly written prejudicial insensitive piece of gibberish supposed to achieve??!!! It is people like YOU Jeniffer Okoo that prejudge people based on appearance,categorising everyone stereotypically as You see them. It is exactly people like YOU Jeniffer that makes the subjugates these ideas and impressions on young impressionable minds - and that in itself is what is actually Disgusting. If YOU have issues with your own self and will feel better about them by writing crap such as this then P L E A S E park comot road!!

@linda- please desist from allowing writing (if I can call it that) of this caliber on your medium. Albeit not a reflection/representation of your views per disclaimer above, you do have a responsibility to your younger female audience, especially as you yourself are of the same sex.

I'm a working eligible bachelor by the way and particularly find views like Jeniffers distasteful and obnoxious.

Shoutout to all the lovely beautiful strong confident independent ladies from Oklahoma to Okendon to Okokomaiko!!! Stay strong focused and happy in yourselves!! - this is what Everyman has the ability to see and cherish when choosing a wife!!..trust me I know!!..😜


S.O. Hampshire.

Jade said...

I was fat and depressed once, but i took responsibility for my weight, after all I wasn't under a spell when I was eating large fries, an entire pizza at a sitting and icecream like it was my last day on earth. Its simple,IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

Anonymous said...

Now, I don't mean to sound unsympathetic or mean, but what is the depression or sadness about,the worst thing that could happen to anyone is when your totally clueless about what is happening to you or why its happening ,the only group of fat people I feel bad for are those that got fat from medication or illnesses... The rest fat people all I can say to you is this ,you know the source of your problems, if you don't like how you look, you deal with the situation!!!! Get off your fat butts and hit the gym!!! Get a personal trainer, go on a bloody diet!,watch your greedy food or junk intake, build up some friggin discipline!!!!!..... That is if you don't kujw like how you look oh!!!...bottom line I will never feel sorry for a fat person, not even my own kid, neither will I let him or her wallow in self pity,I will kick yo azz off the damn chair!!!!

nonnie said...

whomever wrote this article must not only be a fat girl but also fat in the brain. I took my time to read through the article and not once did she thoroughly emphasize on the serious health issues that come with being fat and all she keeps focusing on is dress size. So is dress size that will finally make fat girls to be accepted in the society abi? Fat girls have an option not to go for that extra muffin or that extra helping of food. Abi you think skinny girls dont like food? Everyone likes food but you have a choice to stay healthy, and remember that what you dont eat today, you can always eat tomorrow. Maybe if the fat girls remember that their dress sizes are not easily available then they will learn to eat within their calorie range and stop feeling depressed and join a gym or jog around on the streets if money for gym is an issue. Not coming to write a stupid article on why society should pity fat girls because of lack of their dress sizes. How about an article of how they can have a cardiac arrest because their hearts are too weak to pump blood and see if any fat girl will decide to remain fat. Only very few fat people are fat due to health issues like diabetes or thyroid gland disease. The rest should effing stop eating like gluttons and join a damn gym. Mtschewwwwww.

Fizzichillio said...

Madam writer, you don't breathe in air and get fat.. its stupid food n Silly eating habits. You see kids nowadays looking a little obese and parents see that as being healthy. We have no options to select which skin, hair and eye colours, height, voice etc we are born with but trust me, the option of which body figure to maintain solely lies on us and the eating choices we make. So abeg, jeje go siddon somewhere

#Fizz

Anonymous said...

Linda. Wetin diz one come teach us nw.

Anonymous said...

that's what happens when you over indulge.cut down food intake,i consider fat people undisciplined.

Anonymous said...

and skinny ones r taking all sorts of concotion just 2 get fat.if u r too thin u ll face d same thing

Anonymous said...

She should lose the weight and stop whining. No one is allowed to complain for things they can change.

Anonymous said...

this is serious oh,but it is a fact, i think we still have men whose perfect taste is big and fat ladies for logical reasons. farry4real2k@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

very very true

Anonymous said...

Fat get level
i fat but e no reach this picture nah

Anonymous said...

Linda who wrote this? The grammar is very bad. The sadness begins is so annoying, it should be the sadness continues. Orobos are not mocked as much at home sha.

Anonymous said...

Jennifer biko proof read next time ah ah.

yawanow said...

The solution is to slim down to a reasonable size.

Unknown said...

I don't agree with you on this,a fat Nigerian girl doesn't care abt their size infact they love it,if u had referred this to a white girl then u are absolutely right.
Face of lib

Neekee said...

Well said

A. ayinke said...

Its a sensitive issue and the truth is if u're not fat, u just won't understand! Having said dat, I bliv pple dat fall into dis category shud try(even dou it's quite hard) to loss some for their own gud and no one else.

#king said...

I dnt pity most of dem..u eat 3 cups of eba n expect to be like kim k? mba nu..it doesnt work dat way..heaven helps those who help themselves................................#KingOfKings

Unknown said...

why Fat girls? what about fat boys
NONE OF MY BUSINESS THO






BORN TO SHINE!!!!

Anonymous said...

Even while they are fat, they eat a lot..

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm, this is serious fashion industry please take note!!!

Anonymous said...

The writer is obviously fat!

Anonymous said...

Plump and loving it,plus size girls rock,I love Adaora ukoh so much she is my role model. Delly says so!

Unknown said...

This is so true.

Ada Owerri said...

Den let dem hit d gym ASAP....(Rochas We Know 2014)

Anonymous said...

is very disheartening bt dia is a solution to fatness, is all about dieting and for u to diet u have to be determined, disciplined and should b able to give urslf target. I used to b orobo(105kg) then i wz 26yrs old,bt now am fit(65kg) so if i could get to ds stage any odar person can to it. The society shld help and encourage the fat ones dan makin mockery of dem. I wish u d best of luck.nomyli@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

We. Appreciate the write up but why is it skewed towards fashion, shopping and social looks...why didn't u give tips on how to lose fat, recreation, eating habits etc. besides, there are worse issues fat people have rather than the dresses and shopping bizarre.

Anonymous said...

How does this help with anything? No really? How? I know some Big girls that doesn't feel this way atall, instead they joke about it.....This Post is annoying!

Anonymous said...

so what do you want us to do? advise them to go to the gym or do something about it. being slim is hardwork. they should also control what they eat. #teamslimandlovingit#

Unknown said...

We. Appreciate the write up but why is it skewed towards fashion, shopping and social looks...why didn't u give tips on how to lose fat, recreation, eating habits etc. besides, there are worse issues fat people have rather than the dresses and shopping bizarre.

Anonymous said...

Well lose weight then or stop moaning

Ojie said...

Very personal write-up. Reading was a bit stressful with all the grammatical errors.

Olubukola Ozone said...

Its so true. The society neglets the fat ones for d slim and its fast getting the better part of the plus-sized women. But what wuld u av me do? Leave the slim and bottle-figured lady for an exessively fat one?? I doubt it

Anonymous said...

My dear writer,go shed some weight . Being fat isn't healthy. Not just about looking good. Discipline urself and eat right

Anonymous said...

I Think d writer should have ended it with "a fat girl" to be happy with herself. either fat or slim, it is all about having a good self esteem

Unknown said...

me i like big girl so anybody can go fuck dem self

dhobiz said...

And then she lost some weight and feel fab and healthy,plz tell her to loose weight.

Anonymous said...

I know it's quite frustrating for fat ladies especially when it comes to the issue of cloths. In America, it's not difficult to get large sizes because the society knows these people do exist. But here in Nigeria, the people who sell cloths finds it difficult to bring in big sizes because they are not always on demand. My advise is: Go to the boutique or shop where u always buy ur cloths, place ur demand and am sure they'll always put u in consideration when next they travel to buy cloths.

NaNcY DreW said...

Honestly seeing dis post made me lmao i know i shud be feeling sad 4 dem especially wen i av dem as friends dis just made me so terrified dat i vow dat i ll neva let myself go NEVA.Am curvy buh HELL NO I will not live dis world a fat loser. One word DISCIPLINE.

Anonymous said...

I disagree! Not in 9ja, fat gals have no complex,unless d ones with personal issues. Been fat in 9ja is no big deal at allll!

elo tasha said...

Fat has become an old trend,but whether we like it or not humans are made slim and fat,everyone with their own special look


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Anonymous said...

Look, I have struggled with my weight all of my life,and I am not depressed about it. Such is life.One year i'm a 12 the next an 18.Mostly, because I sit at a desk all day and i'm exhausted when I get back,which is no excuse.And then I workout like a beast and the weight falls off. My problem is keeping that momentum for life, it is not easy. So my advice to anyone going through this is to go on and workout and try to maintain it. I am a wonderful and beautiful person and I refuse to let my size determine who I am. This one in the story too do- sad, sad ,sad,and depressed to the Nth degree, abegi!!Live life and tell those people to fuck off!

Anonymous said...

If the fat girl is so depressed, tell her to f***king lose weight. It is not your genes but laziness and gluttony. You cannot blame average size people for putting effort to stay slim. I have fat friends who eat like food is going out of existence especially in a place like naija where 80% of the people starve everyday. Why don't you do charity fat pig and pledge to share 30% of each meal with the poor. You'll be more happier and your body will thank you for

Anonymous said...

Easy to solve.

Lose weight! Stop eating all those big bowls of eba and large containers of ice-cream. Live healthy.

Anonymous said...

Well said, it is only the person wearing the shoes that knows how it hurts.

Anonymous said...

Well, stop complaining you're fat and do something about it so you can fit into those nice clothes that slim girls wear...sheesh!

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahahhaahahahha.....fat girls be like, we are proud of we are...but dying inside...sorry for them. No matter what, I still detest fat girls, even the bible in a way though...:)

Unknown said...

I go for number 2

Anonymous said...

This really has got to stop,if u are big appreciate ursef,dnt let anyone lower ur self esteem,pack ursef well,u wud even look more beautiful than an average slim girl,eat healthy,dont envy any slim girl,big is beautiful,i am big,bold and beautiful and I love myself,no one should b made to feel bad about hw dy look.so I support the fat girls,if anyone calls u fat,tell dem u jst endowed #teamchubbygirls#we rock

Anonymous said...

As for me I use too be a size 22 not until I did fabslimtox diet, very difficult diet but good results, I can't Believe am a size 14 in just 2months, I went through hell while I was big, my in laws even had to put me on Pressure due to my excessive weight of my in fertility, my colleagues at the office constantly bring me down with the words, always making fun of me when someone is celebrating their birthday I will be the first the would offer a piece of cake, now not anymore, from size 22 to 14 is not a joke, I feel healthier and lighter, and to GOD be the glory immediately I finished the fabslimtox diet I got pregnant, am 4months gone,I feel so Fufilled, once I put to bed will continue my diet. but for those Ladies out there with low self esteem, due to their weight, don't feel bad when people bring you down, if u are not comfortable with the weight, just start something, by putting all your efforts, cos seriously fat make u look old.

Anonymous said...

As for me I use too be a size 22 not until I did fabslimtox diet, very difficult diet but good results, I can't Believe am a size 14 in just 2months, I went through hell while I was big, my in laws even had to put me on Pressure due to my excessive weight of my in fertility, my colleagues at the office constantly bring me down with the words, always making fun of me when someone is celebrating their birthday I will be the first the would offer a piece of cake, now not anymore, from size 22 to 14 is not a joke, I feel healthier and lighter, and to GOD be the glory immediately I finished the fabslimtox diet I got pregnant, am 4months gone,I feel so Fufilled, once I put to bed will continue my diet. but for those Ladies out there with low self esteem, due to their weight, don't feel bad when people bring you down, if u are not comfortable with the weight, just start something, by putting all your efforts, cos seriously fat make u look old.

jennez said...

u re so rite Jennifer most especially wit d NYSC kaki.nice one

Unknown said...

I sincerely like big(fat) girls and i don't have a problem with that

Unknown said...

I sincerely like big(fat) girls and i don't have a problem with that. #oAk

Unknown said...

Fat is beautiful same as Slim. #####QUEENMAYA#####

Anonymous said...

First of all stop referring to her as fat. That's a good start

Anonymous said...

It's really unfair'' they way fat pips are treated ''my vote is 3#

Anonymous said...

This is so true. I'm in a bout of depression even. And I vote all the above. Society should be more considerate with their comments honestly. Pearl

Unknown said...

I guess the writer is fat. Lol

Anonymous said...


The 2 reasons fat people can't find good clothes while shopping are:

1) Fat girls don't have a nice fitting figure cos of their excess.
2) Fat girls cost too much money for the designers (they use 6 yards for tops and 4 yards for bottoms)

Am just stating facts

Anonymous said...

My dear Linda. Take it easy . Personally I don't like d post. It sounds prejudiced to me. We needs posts that will help plus size people, posts that will encourage them to take a bold step in rearranging their lives. Americans will swallow u for this. U dont mention fat. All fingers shouldn't b equal.all things big n small God made them all. Some people are doing their best to reduce but myriads of factors are in play here. Some are genetically attuned to fatness. Thank God for who u are. Afterall some men like it curvy n yummy. Culturally africans never celebrated skinny women if not for globalization. Kponkporo linda

Tunie. said...

nice write-up...bottomline is keep fit and smart.

Enk@y said...

Ditched being skinny; being healthy and fit is way better.

Anonymous said...

Poorly written. You should have given it to a graduate of English Language to edit. And you should have checked your diction properly. "Posttraumatic stress disorder" in this context is inappropriate. Prejudice instead of prejudicial. Try and discipline yourself on your eating habit, most overweight people eat too much. It's indiscipline and a sin (gluttony). Overweight can lead to severe health complications and early death.

Anonymous said...

The writer sure knows a lot of things about fat girls. Is she fat herself? If she is then why not join a gym, instead of moaning about the insecurities and plight of fat black women? Too many excuses for being fat. So the rest of us should cry because fat people can't find their size or are embarrassed? That's ridiculous. Any fat person should go and exercise and stop loading on comfort food, that's stupidity. Don't get me wrong. I like fat people, but sympathy articles like this don't get anyone thinner. If at all anything it makes them fatter. And defensive.


And if the article was for humor, I'm not laughing.


Mwaha.

Anonymous said...

Of course no one will comment on this ! Because it involve a fat girl! This is so unfair! Very bad society and wicked ppl

Anonymous said...

Try and slim down... i was expecting to hear what efforts you have made to see that you slim down you didn't say..., if every person starts complaining of one of his or her own body defects, academic or health deficiencies we wont finish talking about it, that's life God didn't share it perfectly for every person.

Anonymous said...

The fat girl was not made that way. Her love for food and lack of exercise put her in that position. She can either be fat, love herself and tell everyone to go to hell or eat less, exercise and cut down the weight. No time for self pity.

Unknown said...

well said..nonetheless, I SINCERELY like phaaaaaaaaaaat girls with tribal marks and complex stretchmarks..but little mouthodour and plenty body-odour.."perfect description for my long-search gf"
..However, If u feel bad about ur looks, status and size, den..u'v simply given room for odas to see u dat way..Howbeit, b happy always!..

Anonymous said...

Linda i dey vex say na size 8 i dey wear like small pikin, still you dey traumatized me with fat people question. You dey offend me gannnn


AYA LOTO

Unknown said...

Everyone has their pain,slim,fat,skinny,curvy,name it.....fat pple shud watch wat dey eat,dey like food too much

Anonymous said...

Is it just me or is this post about fat girls and the "trauma" of shopping? If its about shopping then u don't know what it means to be 6ft 2 inches as a woman and the hell we go thru looking for anything to wear. Please complain about sth else. Being fat us not bad as long as you are neat, educated smart and have a good character

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Then please go to the gym. Not everyone has to be skinny but you also don't have to be fat. It's unhealthy and not flattering at alllllll. Just my opinion though.

Anonymous said...

Nna leave matter. Full figures are in vogue these says so no one says you should be skinny. Having said that weight is unhealthy so whether you are embarrased or not, you need to shed the excess for your health sake. Forget people and do it for yourself. I lost 20kgs on my own so I know what im talking about. Fat girls eat too much thats their problem . Food is sweet but must you eat like theres no tomorrow? As much I feel for them I dont think they must remain that way. It is not a dissability so theres no excuse. Unless you are happy with the weight then remain so. If not? My sister change ur life abeg. You dont have to be the topic when you enter a room. Unless its for compliments.

Anonymous said...

then eat less,more of fruits and vegetables haba.

comfort said...

Nawah ooo

Unknown said...

It's not easy being fat,but fat people can help dere self by working out and eating right

Anonymous said...

This is Hilarious.... Can't just help but Laugh

obietrezy said...

Its so terrible for them because i remember going for an interview in one of our reputable banks and after our interview, a girl was sent home because of her big body size and she felt so terrible and started crying. I just had to console her and told her a better job is on the way... Ladies please learn to watch your weight it is very important.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm

Amarachukwu. said...

True talk.

Anonymous said...

Since you CHOOSE to do nothing about your weight (as it's clear to see that you are not comfortable in your own skin), continue wallowing in your misery!

Anonymous said...

It is not easy, but you should try to lose some weight, there are all sorts of diets and programs out there. I've heard the whole Nigerian men like big women thing etc but that is soo false.

Anonymous said...

Tank God for my size,jus like dat of Genny baby.

Carter said...

There is no actual point being made in this article. It is very poorly written, now my sadness begins too. Firstly, there is a difference between fat and obese. Secondly, I thought this would be unique to the experiences of a/the Nigerian Fat Girl, however this could be any fat girl.

If the person with clearly too much time wanted to run a poll, she would have saved 5 minutes of my life i wont get back again!

Seamless said...

Not every fat girl gives a hoot about what people say concerning her size. That being said, i'm not one of those who use the embrace yourself and love yourself slogan as an excuse to lurve my curves. Being fat is not healthy at all. Plus, you could have a lot of fun loosing fat the minute you find what kind of exercises work for you..

Anonymous said...

whatever the fashion industry does... the fact remains they dont think about the fat girl, rather they focus on skinny looking girls there manufacturing only for girls with model figures......


Call me THAFINEXX..... tnk me later

Funso Samuel said...

I feel for them o.All i will advise is that they should belive in themselves and stay strong.Fat is bold.

Unknown said...

So Sad.....very tru indeed......I vote...

**JoHn Cena Mistress**

Anonymous said...

D change begins wt u,u can be wat ever u want to be,skinny or slim.I remember those day y in high school,I wil be up for getting ready for school but thought of going through another ridiculed of being fat got fear all over me,I would lie to My aunt dat this or that is d reason I won't be in sch dat day to avoid d shame,oh yes I was big n hated my slf also.but a day changed everything I stared at mags,newspaper read how pple maintain their shape'EXERCISE' I started almost immediately n today Hmmmmm am d most envious among my group I walk around all head rolls to see who walk past,am not totaly skinny but I got my desired body shape ,exercise now is my hubby.eating right n gud exercise is d ultimate for weight watch

Lagbaja said...

This is very sad....I am a size 14 now and its hard because sometimes i get comments that trash my esteem. My advice is to love yourself anyway. If you love yourself it will help make the right decisions and in totality, make you happy. I am now working on my weight because i feel that it is the best way to a healthier, happier me.

Unknown said...

You are just a full - blown fool, u making it feel like it's ebola u talking about. So the fat people should go and hang themselves abi. Ode oshi. Just pay attention to your thoughts b4 u voice them out, empty-brained idiot. U sud be subtle in your speech next time.

Anonymous said...

Gbam! Gbamer!! Gbamest!!!

Unknown said...

am so sad on their behalf

Unknown said...

am so sad on their behalf

Anonymous said...

Linda i am a FAT girl and i dont think fat people should be 'sympathized' with. Although it can lead to a lot of illnesses, Being FAT is not an illness, If you are fat and uncomfortable with the way you look and are being treated THEN CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOOK, restructure your eating habits, do a little more excercise, take care of yourself.... if you are too lazy to do that, then shop at the 'BIG AND BEAUTIFUL' line...

I am sick and tired of fat girls stigmatizing themselves, there are a lot of FAT girls that work it, if you are uncomfortable in your skin, you are encouraging people to look down on you and cultivating a habitat of depression.

PLEASE, CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS, WORK OUT (RESULTS MAY COME IN SLOWLY BUT THEY WOULD COME) AND MOST IMPORTANTLY BE CONFIDENT.

PS: i would really like to write a full response to this article but idk how to get it across to you linda

Anonymous said...

Can't just help but Laugh!!!!!! Lmaaaaooooo #Like Seriously Girls should Cultivate the Habit of Eating Healthy

Unknown said...

Onyxxxx come chop kiss.....Am a tomboy and trust me I knw hw it is

Unknown said...

The fashion industry ignores fat girls

Anonymous said...

Ders no point painting d truth. Obesity is a disease and it even predisposes u to diabetes, heart disease as well as odas. If u r fat, begin exercise. Work on urslf nd stop looking 4 pity. Most times dey r dat fat cos dey just cnt control deir eating habit and it's horrible. Even d slim nd average pple need exercise to kip fit

Anonymous said...

she has to suck it up and loose the fucking weight. She caused herself to be like that. And i noticed that every fat girl you advise will dream of loosing weight but still oohhh that hamburger is nice. ive tried soo hard to advise fat girls. I get the depression stuff, but you just gotta suck it up and loose the weight, one year is enough to overcome your problem. One year is like one day and before you will know it you will be like beyonce!

Unknown said...

Nice one!!! I am a big size 12. I wear size 14 sometimes. The truth is that we all need to exercise and stop all the pity party. If you are that fat tell yourself the truth and discipline yourself. Thanks.

Anonymous said...

Is dere anything wrong in getn married to a gay lady?sombody like me prefaer a gay lady than that of slim.although many guys take an advantage of them simply bcos fat ladies always ar always in a despirate of getn married bcos there tought always laid on no guy wld luv to marry them.left to me,they ar d best.

Anonymous said...

Shut ur gutter! Until you have walked in their shoes, don't judge! Small minded tart!

Unknown said...

1000 likes.....to my Mgbeke friend

Unknown said...

Humorous comments!the aristos go for the fat girls unlike we slimshady...:heheheheh

Unknown said...

Hahahahaah@u ave a full chest not agbalumo!!!LMAO

Unknown said...

Correct!hahahahah u got me laughing

Unknown said...

Umm I see nothing wrong in wat he has said he/she said dey hate fat(no 'pple' was attached , for instance I can't be skinny n I can say it nywhere,I also don't eva wanna be fat again cuz i ve been dere n I didn't like it so I changed it, n am also being very careful not go bak to it. Stp reading too much meaning into things n attacking pple unnecessarily

Anonymous said...

Oh please! They there's fat and there's obese... You can pity an obese person if u can justify pitting a drug addict... It's the same damn thing, obese pple are addicted to food and they should get help instead of hosting a pity party! If they don't like the way they are, then they should hit the gym. Except if they have thyroid issues,

Anonymous said...

It's a self inflicted problem, you don't hear drug addicts whining, obese pple are addicted to food and they should stop acting like it's every one else's fault that they are fat. If they don't like the way they look, they should hit the gym and stop hosting a pity party

Anonymous said...

Nothing to be sad about. Just workout, eat well be healthy & happy. It's a challenge for you as a person. A simple wisdom problem. You sure can achieve your dream size ~ God Bless

Anonymous said...

Ima George you are the full blown fool, why are you angry? Or do you have obsessed people in your family?
Yes I hate fat! It's Not my fault your shallow brain interpreted my comment the way it did.
being fat is a choice. "if it's not a medical problem" then you have no excuse to be Fat. My mum is in her early 60s and still works out so I see no reason why a young girl can't.

Why have self pity when you can change your life style? Abeg abeg don't annoy me. This Ima person.
Fat is a topic that annoys me.

TalkAtive beibei said...

And my colleagues love my curvy shape and ask how i maintain my flat tommy, i told them i do sit up every morning before preparing for work and some fat and jealous colleague wont believe me. 90% of fat people chose to be so coz i was very fat in my secondary school days. thanks to my brothers for teaching me how to work out.

Anonymous said...

Looks like you're affected but...

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